A Character Trait You Need That Most Gurus And Famous People Don't Talk About

After dealing with so much crap from Supervisors and Managers and Co-workers and my Ex, I've come to realize, that the bullshit just ain't gonna stop. It's part of Life. There is always going to be stupidity you'll have deal with. There's always going to be someone else's issues you're going to have deal with. People are going to create drama. People are going to make your job more difficult than it needs to be. People are not going to do their job properly or follow-through on agreements, etc. It's gonna happen and, it's going to keep happening for as long as you live.

Don't get used to it, but be aware of it.

Don't be a pushover. Demand Excellence.

Be assertive. Ask people to do their job (if they're not doing it).

Use tact. Ask them for help. Show them a list of what needs to be done and why. Teach the bums something to improve their knowledge or self-esteem. Be the first to offer help, and don't feel bad when you have to get them to reciprocate the favor/help when you need it.

As you can see, this is also a challenge, but it will help you learn to deal with slackers and teach you to be a more effective leader. If you can motivate these rascals, you can probably motivate anybody.

You're not helping yourself, your company, or your team, by ignoring lazy people.

You're not helping them by teaching them or allowing them to be slack and put out half-ass work.

Be assertive and ask for what you want and need. Don't allow your life to be in turmoil just because other people won't do their job.

Look for other options to get what you want. Don't settle for a single resource and have to put your ideas or plans or goals on hold because some lazy-ass jerk won't do his or her job.

People will lie on you - intentionally or un-intentionally. Speak up for yourself and set people straight. If you have to, plan and prepare what you're going to say before you approach the person. If it's not important, let it go and let the facts or your actions and words speak for themselves.

But, sometimes, you have to address the BS, so that people know not to falsely accuse you (or lie on you) again.

All of these things are Challenges.

Look at it from a different perspective: All of these challenges are put in front of you in order to force you to step up your game and shine. Successful people welcome these challenges because it keeps them on their toes and allows them to justify kickin' the crap out of BS for any reason at all.

The "below average" person is going to crumble under the pressure and madness. They can't run with the big dogs because they have a low energy level. They don't want to work and will only do just enough to get by.

I'm sure you see people like this at work all the time. These are folks who will never reach the top of anything unless a miracle happens.

Sure, they'll get special favors, undue recognition, and unfair promotions, but that is because they know how to get ignore the bullshit, avoid it, and/or get around it.

You could get just as far or even further if you would only accept the positions or apply for them like they do.

So, don't run from the drama. Strive for Greatness. Welcome the Challenge. Show the World what you're made of and get your shine on.

You can handle the BS whether it's at the Top or the Bottom. It's really up to you. How much do you believe in yourself? And, how bad do you want to succeed for you and your family?

Other people, no smarter than you, have made it to The Promised Land. You can step up your game and do the same. 

Don't say "No" until you try.

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How To Prepare Your Social Skills For Spring And Summer Dating

If you missed out on Love or a love-connection this past fall and Valentine's Day, don't give up. You still have Spring right around the corner. And, Summertime is right after that. Six whole months of Mother Nature raising our "Attraction Awareness Levels".

People will be looking for Love and, people will be waiting for Love.

A lot of people will be working out so that they will look good in their bikinis and swimwear. And, many will be out shopping for eye-catching tight-fitting shorts and T-shirts and jeans so that they can attract attention or look sexy for the crowds of singles looking for love or a romantic escapade.

So, now is a good time to work on your greetings, small-talk, and deeper-level (or intimate/personal) conversation skills.

I would recommend that you start saving some money so that you will have "baller's fare" when you want to go out and have some fun. I'm not saying spend it all in one place! Just stack plenty of cash so that you will be able to enjoy the longer days (during daylight savings time) and any of the events that will take place. Put yourself in the perfect position to have fun and meet new people.

Plus, having more money in your pocket will give you more options and more confidence.


This is also a superb time to look for some good places to go on a date. Ask around. Surf the Net for restaurants, arcades, sports activities, a museum or a historic city, or go to the beach.

Be prepared. Get a calendar and create a "to-do list" before it gets too late.

And, don't forget: It continues to get even better from here:

During the fall, all kinds of festivals take place and gives you the opportunity to meet weird and interesting people. Who knows... You might meet someone just as weird as you are and find true love. It happens all the time.

Start connecting with people at work, family members, casual friends, etc. Call them up or messenger them to see how they're doing and what plans they may have for Spring season. How are they getting ready? Are they planning to join a gym? Are they spring-cleaning around the house? Are they taking any trips? Are they joining any clubs? Are they buying a motorcycle or learning how to ride one? Do they want to learn to play tennis?

Some people are looking for work-out buddies and partners to do stuff with. They might not be looking for love, but they might know someone who is.

Start eating healthier for more energy, clearer skin, and to lose weight or tone your muscles.

You also have time to get your credit and finances right for a new place or transportation since a lot of businesses are hiring workers for the busy spring season and building season. This means there is more "guapola" (them greenbacks) out there to be had. And, more guapola means more options and more cash in the bank!

And, again: More Confidence and a feeling of Security.

This will help your social skills immensely.

It's not just about the money, it's the ability to do more.

In the meantime, Practice, Practice, Practice. Start mixing and mingling now.

Practice greeting people and making small-talk. Practice talking about important topics. Practice talking about your day. Practice asking questions about people and what's going on in their lives. Practice your conversation skills on family members, friends, co-workers, strangers, customers, clerks, etc. Just build your skills so that you will be ready when you see someone you would like to meet and get to know more about.

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